I've often struggled with the idea of fearing God while loving Him at the same time; How do you fear someone while loving him? I love my Dad, but I never felt like I loved him when he spanked me growing up.
Then one day I realized that the idea of loving God while fearing Him is about as complex as a God who is all loving and all just at the same time; and as complex as the concept of of calling God Abba Father.
Abba Father, two separate words with 2 different meanings for the same person. Abba: Daddy, one of the sweetest names ever spoken; Father: still the name of a Dad and yet so much more formal. Just imagine a little girl at a park with he Dad and she has just fallen and hurt herself, who does she call for? Daddy. No imagine that same girl about to get punished for something she has just done; what does she call her Dad then? Father. How do you get so close to God that you can call Him Daddy, and yet still call Him Father at the same time?

I think that people focus way too much on one aspect of God over another (and I am one of these people) how many christian songs have your herd recently about God's wrath? What about songs on God's love? yeah, my point exactly. Most people you talk to will either focus on hell fire and brimstone and God's wrath, or God's great love that covers over all sins. why can't we see both at the same time?
People always say that God sent Jesus to die on the cross because He loved us so much. I agree with that but I think that it is only half of the story. If God only fully loved us than He would just wink at us and let us all into to heaven a long with all our sins, but if God were only fully just than he would have thrown us all into hell a long time ago. Neither one of those pictures need Jesus dieing on a cross. God hates sin, he can't stand the site of it and there is no way it could be in His presence for all of eternity; that's His justness. But God Loves us so much that He can't stand the thought of spending eternity without us; that's His love. Because God loves us sooooo much and yet hates sin sooooo much He sent Jesus to us; THAT is why the Son of God died on a cross, He was taking all of our sin and casting it out of site so that we could be with Him for all eternity.
To ignore God's love is to spit in Jesus' face and to ignore God's justness is to do the same.

May we never forget.